For the last ten years I have spent my personal and professional life enmeshed within the domain of parenting. As many before me…parenting is a difficult task and doesn’t always turn out the way we always hope. I frequently think… if this task wasn’t so difficult there would not be so many parenting books, magazines, blogs, websites and parenting groups. Parenting is an active process that is rooted with many challenges that at times trigger your inner being. Often when I am working with parents, I say…”a sign of being a great parent is being able to recognize when the line is blurring or even disappearing.” This process can sometimes be not only a challenge but a difficult task especially when you are trying the balance your needs with that of your child/children and if you are married,your spouse.
While sometimes in my journey I wished my children came into this world already knowing… but the reality is they didn’t, therefore the responsibility lies on their parents.I believe that some parents forget that they were once children who required patience, nurturing and love. Instead the get easily frustrated by there children who respond and act the way the should… as children. Through the process of parenting, parents are responsible for not only the day-to-day and medical care, but they are their children’s first teacher. Children are taught to view this world as either a safe or unsafe place; they build their social-emotional intelligence and ultimately through this process begin to develop a since of empathy for the people around them.
This is not an easy task. That is why parenting is “The Great Challenge.” It is something that is onl
y developed by actively doing and being able to recognize when you have done something wrong. There is no one size fits all approach, but rather the parenting process needs to adjusted to the the specific needs of each child. Parenting requires not only the edification of the fruits of the spirit but also a mindful and self-reflective examination of how “your” parenting behavior is impacting your children.
It is my hope that through this site, I will be able to create a context for the parenting process and address the ways in which trauma, depression, anxiety, parental temperament, and even child development impact this process.